it has happened

we were doing remarkably well. people talk of it always happening but i was wondering when it would actually occur. you know the fights that happen between couples regarding this subject....wedding planning.

sure mark and i have had a few disagreements. in the very beginning when this was very new and very overwhelming, there was more stress and panic of how are we ever going to do this? okay probably more stress and panic from me. the biggest fight we have had yet was regarding our honeymoon as i didn't want to hike and he wanted to hike...A LOT. compromising did work in the end. but all and all, it has been easier than i thought....

for instance in the beginning my mom came. she helped me become bridal as we picked out dresses to try on. it was actually lots of fun. and who knew a girl could go into one store and find the one dress she wanted???

then mark and i embarked on the adventure. we found our church and venue. that was really easy. everyone was so helpful and nice that we couldn't think why this was so hard.

next came the photographer and dj. check and check. again everyone was full of information and so accomodating to what you wanted. this planning thing is a cinch.

then it happened. where you may ask? shopping for the:
tuxes.
yes you heard me right....
we went shopping for tuxedos.
first mistake: communication misunderstanding. i thought we found the place and were going to actually rent them. mark thought we were going to many and price shopping. (this was just the beginning).
once in the store i ask mark which one he likes. mark picks one, but its the wrong one. how do i know this? its not the one i want him to wear. yes i have become that person! that bride! yuck!
a different approach was taken. "how about you pick the colour." thinking to myself, how hard could that be?
 "i want the blue one." (okay apparently it is hard.)
"blue isn't even one of our wedding colours."
"you asked me to pick what i wanted".
sigh "i wanted you to choose the colours from our wedding or some neutrals".
"then why didn't you just tell me what you wanted and then i will choose that"
"because i want you to choose, what i...er, i mean you want!"

i am sure you can see how the conversation eventually went. tuxedo shopping part I was not as successful as i hoped. round II a neutral person will be accompanying us to ensure it goes more smoothly. this neutral person may also be a friend to both of us to ensure that the "deliberation" process can go underway and we can move on to the next step....

sigh...wedding planning...